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Snow, snow, and more snow.

Shoveling snow.   An activity that truly brings you up close and personal to Nature and all she wants to share with us, especially if you’re a baby boomer and it’s tough on your back.

Where I live now, there’s winter snow….dry, powdery, mercifully light on your arms and shoulders. A good thing especially when your driveway is sloped and your shoes don’t have the best traction.

IMG_0008And then there’s the spring snow…sometime during February or March, the snow becomes wetter and heavier. Everyone will tell you how great spring snow is because it doesn’t stay around long. The roads and grassy areas are warm and it melts quickly. Oh yippee.

But you’re still shoveling.

And shoveling. And shoveling.

Because around here, it can easily snow through May, which it did last year. Thick, wet and heavy, it was very unkind to trees and shrubs that foolishly had thought the coast was clear and already had begun to bloom. Not only was I outside with a rake, jabbing it upwards into trees trying to shake snow off struggling limbs (and getting most of the snow in my face), I was leaning out upstairs windows with broom handles jabbing at the tops of trees that were perilously leaning over.

All in all, it’s exhausting. And I know everyone living in the Northeast U.S. is well over it all.

Of course, they sell “ergonomic” snow shovels, which can be a blessing when your back is worn out from it all. Then there are the snow blowers, which your neighbor often owns, but this neighbor never seems to get outside to use it early enough so you still end up doing your driveway the old-fashioned way.

I remember my father shoveling what seemed to be endless snow when I was a child. No one on our street had any blowers and he probably wouldn’t have let them come over anyway. He was going to do it himself, without resting. Which looking back, wasn’t very smart health-wise.

As we get older it’s okay to do things in short spurts. It’s even more okay to let someone else do it for us. Kindness is a gift, not a statement of age. We’ve done enough of it to last a lifetime—let someone else have a turn. It’s not worth risking back injury, heart attack, or slipping on an icy surface.

Maybe that’s one of the big lessons of winter: putting our well-earned wisdom to work to take care of ourselves.

candlesMaybe another lesson is sitting with ourselves and seeing if we can be quiet, inside, and still sane…even after the days go by.   Not easy.  I can get cabin fever quickly, which triggers food cravings far stranger than a healthy person could imagine.   It’s all part of that don’t-fence-me-in thing:  I’m okay being at home, until I am forced to be at home, then I want to be somewhere else.

Snowfall used to be so much fun when we were kids. It still is to my dog, (though the hair on her feet freezes and we have to dig ice balls from between her toes). I confess it’s lost its luster for me, especially if I have to drive in it. Still, it is often beautiful…especially the next day, (if you’re lucky enough to live where it usually doesn’t snow for days on-end), when it’s just on the tops of the hills, or tip-tops of far-away mountains, and the sky is a breathtaking shade of blue, and the sun makes the snowy ground dazzle like diamonds….

If you’re shoveling, be careful. Be wise. Be patient.

It’s gotta end sometime.

 

“Winter is on my head, but eternal spring is in my heart.”

          Victor Hugo

 

 

 

 

 

Pick up a pencil.

Pencil, anyone?

I confess. I’m a boomer and I love pencils.

I love how they feel in my hand. I love how the aroma of the lead (which is actually graphite). I love being able to erase and start over any time I choose.

Pencils are friendly. Casual. Easygoing. If a pencil was a car, it would be an old Chevy station wagon. Unassuming, yet practical. Modest, yet hard-working.

file0002053556247Johnny Carson used to play with pencils on The Tonight Show that had an eraser on both ends. Henry David Thoreau manufactured pencils. John Steinbeck is said to have started each day with 24 newly sharpened pencils.

We pencil lovers are in the minority these days, at least it feels that way in business meetings. Everyone pulls out their fancy pens and writes silently, while we purists write, erase, and make noise. Somehow, it’s looked down upon, as though you’re not quite as sophisticated as the guy next to you (who is actually writing a note to himself to remember to tape the game later).

It’s really not fair, especially if you are a writer by profession. God knows no one knows more about how things can change than a writer. Maybe it’s our own edits, but usually it’s someone else’s, welcome or not. So we understand the lack of permanence.

 Frankly it makes me nervous to write down anything with a pen and ink…it’s so final. So formal. So lacking in imagination.

Pencils have a cooler history than pens. Some say a man in Napoleon’s army is said to have invited the first pencil, though I suspect it was long before that. Man (and Woman) has always wanted to express him/herself, and for sure, change his/her mind as well.

There is actually a Pencil Museum in England. And I must say, they have the coolest website…(click on their “History” tab and scroll down)…clearly a group of people who appreciate all things pencil. The museum traces the birth of the pencil all the way back to graphite being discovered in 1500 and lists 1832 as the first record of a factory in Keswick making pencils.

People boast they can complete the New York Times crossword puzzle in ink.

How lacking in elegance.

file000429854677A pencil and a crossword puzzle just go together. My mother used to have dozens of 3-inch pencils spread around the kitchen so she could do her morning puzzle while we ate breakfast. Pencils are home. Lunchboxes. Dick and Jane.

 Pencil Revolution is a blog devoted to the love and use of pencils. Yes, there’s a community out there. We know we are.

What about you…do you reach for a pen or a pencil? If you are a secret pencil lover, do you proudly show your writing instrument, or reserve it for use only in private?

Don’t be shy, go back to your roots.  Pick up a pencil.  Roll it in your fingers, smell the graphite, and feel your blood pressure slowly go down.  And down. And down….

 

“Map out your future…but do it in pencil.”

                                    Jon Bon Jovi

 

 

 

 

Who are your heroes?

I heard someone say the other day they wondered who the “younger generation” considers heroes. Assuming this person was talking about people in their 20s and 30s, I have no idea, but I’m hoping the list includes someone other than the cast of Entertainment Tonight.

78c8dff1It got me to thinking about the people I looked up to when I was very young. For sure, the Mercury astronauts were men who embodied raw courage to me. I ate up the space program, and longed to see the launch of a space flight in person. That never happened, but I’ve never lost my passion for it. I really could put every astronaut since on that list.

Helen Keller was also a figure that filled me with awe. I remember learning about her and reading her autobiography and just marveling at how she could break through the darkness and achieve so much.

Dr. Albert Schweitzer was an inspiring hero. It all sounded so mysterious and brave, to choose that life and help others as he did. To me, he defined the term “humanitarian”.

Entertainment-wise, I was a devotee of Roy Rogers. And it wasn’t because of the white hat or beautiful Trigger, it was how nice and gentle he seemed. He didn’t get snarky. He didn’t yell. He didn’t belittle those around him. He just went about doing good and being polite, without ever getting too much dust on his western shirt.

I mean, really, what’s not to like?

Over the years, (and leaving religious figures and family members out of just for simplicity’s sake), I would add other names of this list: Anwar Sadat. John Muir. Henri Nouwen. Madeleine Albright. Doctors Without Borders.

And some that I simply admire a deal for their tenacity at spreading knowledge like Neil DeGrasse Tyson. Steve Jobs.

For sheer guts and class, Jackie Robinson.  

I know I’ve forgotten some that I consider heroic, but I’m not talking about people I just think are nice or talented. I mean someone who really makes you pause and consider what life would have been like without their contribution. Of course people who risk their lives daily to protect or heal others all have the stuff of heroism, and for that, I am eternally grateful. Police, first responders, firemen.

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Soldiers, sailors, marines, and those in the Air Force.  On a recent trip to Washington, D.C., I visited the memorials for the Vietnam War, World War II and Korean War, as well as  Arlington National Cemetery.  Shrines to the ultimate definition of the word “hero”.

Then there’s the  doctor treating Ebola. The father who lies across his toddler as a tornado passes overhead. The mother that pulls a teenager from a burning car. The average citizen who stops a gunman from entering a school.

Maybe deep inside us, we all have what it takes to be a hero, though most of us will  only perform small acts in our daily lives.  Still, they matter. 

Who were your heroes? Do you have new ones? Do you think it’s important to have heroes?

 

“We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up … discovering we have the strength to stare it down.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

 

 

Hug & be healthy.

Valentines cards, candy, and gifts are already in the stores, which is no surprise. Little red hearts and cute stuffed animals can make the most rational adult go screaming into the night if you don’t want to think about your romantic life (or lack of it).

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As boomers and those with more years to our credit, we’ve been through this enough to ignore it if we choose. But one thing is worth paying attention to: how genuinely good it is for our health to touch one another, be affectionate, and have close relationships.

(Whether that relationship is with another human, an animal, or your leaf blower is up to you.)

Research is all over this. Holding hands reduces stress and pain, and the effects can last throughout the day. Being around people you care for causes you to experience a rise in “feel good” hormones like dopamine, which give us focus, energy, and optimism.

Companionship and affection can even help protect you from dementia, by helping build up our reserve of healthy brain cells, among other benefits.

Studies show that having a group of friends can help you live a longer and healthier life, especially when those friends are a mix of ages. I’ve always believed everyone should have at least one good friend over 80. You will learn more about patience and perspective than you ever thought possible.

Being social can boost your immune system. Friends lessen grief, enrich your life and improve your health. Friends can help you achieve your weight loss and fitness goals (unless they feel the need to share a 10-pound bag of M&Ms with you).

Just a simple hug can lower blood pressure.

And it’s true no matter our age. In fact, studies confirm that “elder” (I’ll let you define that term) romance can help people avoid possible health issues. The reason is you tend to be more active when you are sweet on someone. Your mind is fresher and more alive. You don’t feel depressed or alone.

Of course, there are many people who are alone…so what can they do?

Find good friends and spend time with them. Stay in touch. Hug when you see each other. Pat them on the back if a hug is more than you feel comfortable with. Build a bond of mutual caring and support.

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It’s called “social capital”…the ties that build trust, connection and participation. It feels good to know someone cares, and the first step is often in our court—letting that person know we care.

So maybe the best valentine we can send is one to ourselves…to remind us that we can be a friend, have friends, and add some human touch without getting all uptight-American about it.

Cause it feels good as a dark chocolate truffle…without the calories.

 

“There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.”

                  Mother Teresa

 

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